Approaching women can often be a 'nerve wracking' experience for a lot of guys and I know only too well what that feels like. You tend to put yourself under a lot of pressure to come across in an impressive way and then you worry about rejection if it all goes wrong.

So here is my advice: is to approach women in a situation where you are NOT even trying to pick them up or get a phone number or get them to respond to you in any way at all that will put you under the pressure of making your attempt either a 'failure' or 'success.'

What I'm saying here is do not approach women expecting to prove anything to yourself or to 'get' anything from them or try any kind of pick up line or material. And you can use absolutely any kind of women to do this 'practice' exercise, preferably the ones that you can interact with on a normal social level like a sales assistant in a store or a coffee shop attendant or a girl bartender serving drinks in a pub or a bar.

The aim here is simply to engage them in a very brief conversation which involves a little bit more than just the act of ordering something. For example with the shop assistant it could be that you ask her advice on what present to get your sister on her birthday. With the pub staff it could be to ask her advice on a good and interesting cocktail or something. I'm sure you get the drift.

Do not put yourself under any pressure whatsoever to prolong the interaction. That means if you get a short answer from her to a question you asked her, just leave it at that. If on the other hand, she takes the bait and starts smiling too, and responding in a friendly way then take that as your cue to talk a bit more in response.

This little 'no pressure' exercise will give you the kind of very valuable feedback that you can expect from women in other "more social" situations like bars, nightclubs, coffee shops, the bookstore, wherever you later decide to meet women you want to date. The topic of conversation does not matter, what matters is this: your conversation must follow the formula which I call "playful arrogance." This formula works so well because women love to be playfully teased. Note the important words here : PLAYFULLY TEASED. I suggest that from this second, you burn these two words forever into your brain when dealing with women.

So for example, say you have started a conversation with the female bartender in a pub or bar and maybe you just asked her opinion of the best cocktail. And she mentions one, you could then follow up with a playful but arrogant smirk and say something like "is that the best you can do? I thought you looked like a woman of fine taste, ohhhh, I'm so disappointed, now I have to find a second beautiful female expert to advice me on my drinks." Do you get the picture and the scientific structure behind that kind of statement?

Bear in mind that nowhere in this statement have you "insulted" her. If you "overdo" the teasing and actually end up insulting the woman, needless to say that would not result in success. But with a bit of experimentation, you should get better at striking the right "playful balance" that women will find very attractive.

Kenneth Oboh

Ken Oboh, (also known as I-Casanova), is a self confessed "modern day" Casanova who teaches men of all ages how to successfully meet, attract, date and seduce women.

His extensive experience in meeting and dating hundreds of women, from almost every country and background, forms the basis for all that he teaches to men looking to master the art of seducing women.

Ken Oboh is the author of the I-Casanova "forbidden secrets" of seduction, the hugely popular eBook which contains hundreds of Seduction techniques on attracting women.

Ken's incredible insight into female psychology and his expert guidance on relationships is crucial to all men in today's sexually dynamic society.